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100 Genuinely Safe Confession Starters for Unbelievable Marriages

Disagreements in marriage are qumarriage conversation startersite common. In most cases, they happen subtly and easily. As a married couple, therefore, you both need to stay alert to ensure these disagreements are dealt with before they cause irreparable harm.

To do this, you need to focus on building your marriage, as wanting a marriage strong enough that you do not want disagreements in the way of it. It will all start with good communication and a listening ear.

Similarly, it involves being honest and open with each others thoughts, needs, and feelings, as well as playing your role in meeting these needs. By so doing, you will build yourself, your spouse, and (ultimately) your marriage.

How to Converse Constructively in Marriage

The first step you need to take to make this happen is to converse and do so constructively. Mere communication never helped anyone. This means you need to talk about those things you like doing together, what bothers you, and what you would like to see in your partner. Essentially, the conversation should be about the both of you. Otherwise, it would not count as meaningful, constructive, and be useful to your marriage.

It can be surprising how you can be married for years and not have a clue about who you are married to. This mostly happens because society has collectively lost the subtle but deep art of conversation.

After marriage, few couples bother continuing the conversation. Everyday living also distances and separates couples. Either way, you need to ensure that your marriage does not fall by the wayside.

Consider the following conversation starters. Most of these are questions that will help you gain a better understanding and knowledge of each other. As you talk to your spouse, ensure you keep the conversation going.

  1. When do you last remember us laughing together?
  2. Some people keep mum until they know what is going through their minds while others talk to try and figure out their thoughts. Which of these two do you think you are? What about me?
  3. What does affection and romance mean to you?
  4. When did I last make you feel really special? How would you like for me to continue doing it?
  5. What is your favorite physical/sexual memory with me? Would you like to recreate it?
  6. What is your favorite memory of our dating? Why was it so much fun in your opinion?
  7. Have your parents ever messed up with punishing you or talking to you when you were younger?
  8. What did you take your time to confess to your parents – that you would find really funny now?
  9. What song did you really hate in your early teens? Why?
  10. Did you ever watch a movie when you were too young to watch it? How do you think it affected you?
  11. When you first learned about sex? What did you think about it?
  12. Do you remember going for a sleepover party when you were younger? What did you like/hate about them?
  13. Who was your best friend when you were 10? Do you know where they are these days?
  14. Who was your favorite teacher back in elementary school? Why were they your favorite?
  15. What is your most embarrassing memory from high school?
  16. What was your favorite toy when you were growing up? Should we get it for our kids?
  17. Tell me more about your first crush. Did you ever get to tell them how you felt?
  18. Who is your favorite relative from my (side of the) family?
  19. Who do you miss most from your past?
  20. Outside your family, who from your past would you have liked for me to meet?
  21. Between your grandparents and parents, who do you think you behave like the most?
  22. Tell me your life story in 4 minutes or less.
  23. What career did you aspire to when you were a kid?
  24. What were some of the games you liked playing growing up?
  25. When did you first realize that God is real and here with us?
  26. What is the one constant prayer you have kept up with for years?
  27. What speaks to you the most – justice or love?
  28. What is your favorite verse from the Bible? Why?
  29. If you could be any figure from history for a day, who would it be?
  30. If you could spend 30 minutes with any figure from history, who would it be?
  31. If you could travel back in time where would you go?
  32. What subject did you hate in school that you now find interesting?
  33. If you could become president, would you do it? What changes would you make?
  34. What are the 2 things you most want to be remembered for? Can I help develop these 2 things?
  35. How would you define success?
  36. What dream have you laid to rest? Would you like to live it out? Can I help you with it?
  37. What normal food most people love do you wish you liked but you don’t?
  38. What pet peeve would you get rid of?
  39. What’s your idea of the perfect vacation?
  40. If you were on an island, what one luxury item would you yearn for?
  41. How far have you ever walked?
  42. Which zoo animal do you like watching the most? Why?
  43. If we had unlimited time and money, what would you do to turn one of the rooms into your ideal – where you could be most comfortable?
  44. What activity do you no longer engage in that you used to rave about when you were younger?
  45. When did you last cry on your own?
  46. If the house caught fire and everyone (including the pets) and cash/wallets were saved and you could dash one last time to get something, what would you get?
  47. What is your earliest memory?
  48. Do you have any recurring nightmares?
  49. Choose one superpower – super strength, reading minds, teleportation, flight, invisibility. What would be your choice?
  50. If you could store up an hour’s worth of memory (only), what hour of this marriage would you pick?
  51. Which biblical event would you have liked to witness?
  52. When do you feel most loved?
  53. Which strengths bring you the greatest joy and satisfaction?
  54. How do I best encourage you?
  55. What time do you think is the best for us to talk?
  56. If we could leave everything and go do something hippy and fun, what would you pick?
  57. What is the most adventurous thing you have ever done?
  58. What, in your opinion, makes a great parent?
  59. What are the 5 essential values we should make our children embrace above all else?
  60. What should we do together to make this world a better place?
  61. What marriage goal should we accomplish in the coming year, 5 years, 10 years?
  62. If you could go back and live in another period – future or past – what period would it be?
  63. What television program or movie have you seen this past year that you wish everyone could see?
  64. If we had enough money for you to start a business, what would you go into?
  65. If we didn’t have to worry about earning an income, what would you spend the rest of your life doing?
  66. When deciding, do you trust facts or your feelings? Do your decisions make you happy?
  67. What do you consider to be your greatest weaknesses/strengths?
  68. When you think of God, what comes to your mind?
  69. What are the 5 things you are most thankful for right now? How do you show this thankfulness?
  70. Which married couple do you think has an ideal marriage? What do you admire about it?
  71. In the past year, has God ever suddenly seemed real or especially close to you?
  72. What was the best book you last read? What did you enjoy most about it?
  73. Which holiday did you enjoy the most? Why?
  74. If you could be extraordinarily artsy, what talent would you pick up?
  75. If you could elect one of our former leaders to come back and run the country, who would you choose?
  76. What makes marriage distinctively Christian?
  77. In what ways do you think your parents’ marriage affects ours?
  78. Are there times when disagreements need to get postponed? How can we discern such times?
  79. When have I made you feel most loved?
  80. Is there anything I can do to make this marriage more fun?
  81. What do you really and truly think about me?
  82. If one of us had to die, how do you think the other would cope?
  83. What do you miss most about your childhood?
  84. How did your upbringing affect how we are raising our kids?
  85. Which of my friends would you like to spend less time with?
  86. What do you like most about your job? Mine?
  87. How do you think we should spend our next free time together?
  88. What do I do that irks you but you are too kind to say?
  89. Where have I ever failed in the past and really let you down?
  90. Are there any life goals you think you need to accomplish in the next 5 years? How can I help you achieve it/them?
  91. Do you ever think we would have survived without each other if we had not gotten married?
  92. At what point did you decide you had to spend the rest of your life with me?
  93. Of all our kids, who do you think has the greatest shot at turning into us?
  94. What do you dislike most about me and would instantly change?
  95. If we had all the money in the world, how many kids do you think we would have had? Why?
  96. Who resembles me the most in my family – in terms of character and personality? Why?
  97. What would you like us to do the next time we go visit your folks?
  98. How can we be a blessing to the less fortunate in our community? Should we do it?
  99. What practical steps should we take to affair-proof our marriage?
  100. Which of the above questions would like you like us to revisit regularly?

In conclusion, the best way to save your marriage is by conversing. Keep those lines of conversation and communication open so that you can grow closer, rather than apart. As you talk, therefore, choose to be attentive. Find, figure out, look for, and make the time to connect with each other through conversation. Realize success!

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